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    It's all about attitude

    If you aren't keeping up with The Baby Borrowers, it's the reality show where teenage couples take care of other people's kids to get a feel for what it's really like to be parents.  My favorite part of the show from last week was when the babies were returned to their parents.  After all, they didn't ask for the assignment, and it was a pretty tough one.  A couple of the teenage girls demonstrated some just plain whiny, "poor me" attitudes that were painful to watch.  I wanted to go in and take over the care of the babies myself.  I don't know how the real parents were able to restrain themselves. 

    My next favorite part was where some of the parents admitted seeing some of themselves in the actions of the frustrated teens.  Such honesty is refreshing because it's hard to admit that being a parent can sometimes cause us to act like children ourselves.  Working with children requires a great deal of patience and love. 

    This week's show was the toddler experience.  I was once again struck by the lack of patience and determination on the part of some of the teens.  It makes me wonder if some of these teens will improve with age.  Adulthood does not automatically prepare people for parenthood. 

    Working with children is not easy.  As parents and as teachers, we never know what we are going to get.  Some kids are just easier than others.  One of my teacher friends has a daughter who is always a pleaser and seldom does anything to warrant even a slight reprimand.  My friend thought that all kids were like her daughter before she started teaching.  No wonder she looked at our team funny when we discussed our discipline plan.  She had never needed one.

    It's interesting to see how these teens are dealing with children.  Some of them need an attitude adjustment.  With just a little bit of constructive criticism, they are ready to quit.  Children deserve a lot more than that.

    Posted: Thursday, July 10, 2008 8:20 AM by Betty
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    Ms. P. said:

    I haven't watched the show, but I've seen the advertisements. I think the lack of "stick-to-it-ness" you see is a reflection of society. Today's kids/teens have to be taught how to control their impulsivity and frustration. We see it during the school year on a daily basis. Kids want you to tell them the answer and to get things finished as quickly as possible. It takes a lot of time and effort to help kids move from their "I'm the center of my universe" to being able to see things from someone else's perspective. We have to quit assuming that kids know how to handle situations on their own and make sure we are helping them to develop coping skills. Ideally, this would happen at home and be supported at school, but unfortunately, it usually is the other way around with little to know parental support for most the kids I teach.

    # July 10, 2008 10:34 AM

    Maria said:

    I have not sat down to watch the show, but my roommate was watching it lastnight and we both wondered how the real parents felt about handing their children over to teenagers.  All children require an unlimited source of patience and love.  Yes, patience seems to be always tested, but patient teachers are most often the strongest and most effective teachers. It is discouraging to see teenagers act so self-centered and not giving children what they deserve.  I believe teaching is one of the most important professions because so many lives can be changed with a little love and patience on a daily basis.

    # July 10, 2008 10:54 AM

    Betty said:

    I have also seen a lot of students who give up easily if they don't achieve success the first time. I agree, Ms.P.,that a lot of students need to be taught to see things from others' perspectives.   The attitudes of some of the teens on the show are so bad that there is no way I could hand over a child to them.  Maria, I had the same feelings as you and your roommate.  

    # July 10, 2008 4:21 PM

    MysteryTeacher said:

    These kids know that the parents or Nanny is waiting in the background too.  Some of the nannies have had to step in.  It still isn't reality.  These kids, however, may at least get an idea that they aren't ready to be parents.

    I babysat as a kid and I knew that I wasn't ready to be a full time parent.  It didn't stop me from getting hot and heavy though.  I just thank God that it didn't lead to babies.

    # July 10, 2008 6:55 PM
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