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Sticks and stones

The old childhood rhyme about sticks and stones having power over words is an odd one.  I wonder how it got started, took root, and became the mantra of kids pretending that hurtful words wash off with the day's dirt.  As adults, we realize the power of words and how they can be used in connection with acts of bullying.

This morning I read a post titled Take a Number! and agree with Senorita.Hache that it is important to nip disrespect in the bud.  If students get by with saying rude comments to a teacher, it only gets worse, and the students gain control of the class.  The door is also opened for peer bullying. 

I was constantly bullied as a kid because I was skinny and wore glasses.  I never reported the bullying to teachers for fear of reprisal.  Some of those kids were really mean.   Therefore, I think it's imperative that teachers have an awareness of students who enjoy tormenting others and nip this kind of disrespect in the bud as well.

A quote by Robert Fulghum makes a bit more sense to me than the original rhyme.

Yelling at living things does tend to kill the spirit in them.  Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts.

His words are powerful and could be useful in classroom discussions about respect and classroom expectations.  Students might even be challenged to rewrite the rhyme to make it more meaningful.  Some of the new rhymes might even take root.

Posted: Friday, August 15, 2008 8:57 AM by Betty
Comments

Kelly @ Pass the Torch said:

I totally agree - disrespectful comments need to be addressed immediately.  Honestly, a lot of kids just don't know what's disrespectful anymore. So it's our job to draw the line for them.

# August 15, 2008 9:19 AM

Betty said:

It's also sometimes necessary to remind them that facial expressions can be just as disrespectful as words.

# August 15, 2008 4:21 PM

Melissa B. said:

I have a theory that those who spew the most disrespect at other have little self-respect themselves. One of the main tenets in my classroom is that we need to respect ourselves first so that we'll be able to respect others later. BTW, The Scribe is back online, and we're hosting the Silly Summer Sunday Sweepstakes again tomorrow. Please come by and Share the Caption Love!

# August 16, 2008 1:34 PM

MysteryTeacher said:

I agree too.  However, the administration often just passes it off as "kids will be kids".  It tics me off.  I have learned to handle my own discipline in my classroom.  At least until the student crosses the fine line. I just wish principals didn't always believe that if you are "nice" to the kids, these things wouldn't happen.  That is putting the blame for the children's behavior on the teacher.  It belongs on the kids and their parents.

# August 16, 2008 9:27 PM

Veggie Mom said:

I have a friend who acts like a teenager in this regard sometimes. She'll needle, needle, needle, until she gets a reaction. And you KNOW it's gonna be a negative reaction! I think she does it for the attention, just like the kids do. I'm off to Blog Around the World--come visit soon to see how you can go, too!

# August 17, 2008 8:14 PM

Senorita.Hache said:

Your blog really solidified my resolve to "nip disrespect in the bud."  It is so true that when the students are disrespectful to the teacher, they gain control.  This has me thinking about my "action plan" against disrespect... I sense a new blog forming for tomorrow!

# August 19, 2008 10:14 PM

Betty said:

I can't wait to read your action plan!

# August 20, 2008 8:12 AM

Lynn said:

I agree totally. Kids can be harsh with what they say to other students or disrespectful to the teacher. This will get them no where in life. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly putting them down. Words are definately more hurtful to people to me than something physical. It just seems to stick with people. They always remember the bad things people say more than the good.

# August 27, 2008 4:27 PM
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